On this episode of Speechless, JJ and Keneth get to spend the entire day together without mom or school,while the rest of the family gets to go to Paintballing and Ice Skating two things that with JJ are hard to do. Durin their day together JJ and Kenneth become the objects of pity and get special perks, for example. they get to get into a Dogger Game for free. At first,JJ is into to this, but by the end, he is not happy.
I have mild CP , so while I do not get inspiration a lot I still get it. When people call me inspiring, I do not like it. I mean I have not done anything that great. Yes I have a disability and have overcome a ton and I think I am strong and think I am amazing, but I do not like being called inspiring because it does one of two things.
One It shows me how limiting you think that disabilities are.
So one time in college I had something happen to me that I have called the Seal incident. In a Linguistics class at a private college. The teacher overly praised me for doing well on the first test of the quarter . She came to where I was sitting and wanted to shake my hand because I had gotten the second highest grade, she did not praise the highest student. I felt like a seal. I hated this in fact it discouraged me from doing well on future tests in that class. I later learned that she thought I was not going to do well. This made me mad. Let me tell you guys something. Just because you thought I wouldn't do well doesn't mean it's a miracle when we do well it just means that you had low expectations because we have disabilities. I am a disabled honor student and no that is not surprising.
Two It puts me on a pedestal
Inspiration puts me on a pedestal. Just because I have a disability does not mean that I am always good. I have made lots of mistakes, just like everyone else. I am just a human being trying to have a good life according to my family values.
2 comments:
Spot on! My son and his friends have it happen all the time.
...it stands out to me when someone REALLY gets real with them. THAT'S when I really know that a person is REALLY in his corner.
One of his coaches put him in a head lock and pushed him away and said "Boy, you ain't Right!!" My son has Down Syndrome and he loved this guy and was harassing him like he would anyone that has won him over.... and he "wasn't right!!" He wasn't a kid with Down Syndrome to this coach...he was just one of the kids.
Hello! I am so happy I found this blog. How insightful. I run a website called the AAC Language Lab for people supporting students using AAC. I have a blog post up every Wed. by a variety of people - some with disabilities, some parents, some authors, some SLPs or teachers. I would love to repost this if you would allow me. I can then have a link back to your sight. What do you think? I also live in AZ. :) Email me if you are interested - jane.odom@prentrom.com I can also offer you a small stipend for your work.
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